How to Invite Someone into a Discipling Relationship

How to Invite Someone into a Discipling Relationship

We have been entrusted with relationships that we deeply care about. Whether we are at work, in our neighborhoods, or socializing, we interact with people whom God also deeply cares about. The challenge we face is how to invite someone into a disciple-making relationship with us.

Conversation Types and Relationship Levels

We have observed three major shifts in conversations that occur before an invitation to disciple-making is accepted. Below are suggestions on how to transition between these types of conversations:

1. Casual Conversations

Start with everyday conversations about life. These casual interactions are the foundation of building trust and understanding.

2. Meaningful Conversations

To take the discussion deeper, ask questions about the current conversation. Actively listen to what they are saying and ask more questions to continue deepening the discussion. This helps you learn more about what they are dealing with and shows that you care.

3. Spiritual Conversations

Transition the discussion to something spiritual. You could share a piece of scripture that relates to their situation or perhaps an experience in your own life that God used to teach you something. Give the person time to reflect on this and see if they continue to show interest in discussing with you.

4. Discovery Conversations

If a person shows signs of interest in spiritual topics, ask them if they would like to explore what the Bible says about these topics sometime. Using a discovery Bible study process, participants can openly discuss their questions and concerns without feeling pressured into an agreement.